Lessons in Honor
Several years ago, one of our sons came home from school with a note from his teacher, telling us he had called one of his classmates a name. As we talked about it, I realized it was a little girl who lives two houses down from us, and her family comes to our church. For some reason, she had made him mad that day, so he had responded by calling her a name. I reminded him that we treat others with love and respect, even when they frustrate us or act in ways we don’t like, and that he was going to have to walk over to her house and apologize to her. He was mortified! “What if her parents answer? What if I have to say it in front of them,” He asked? As his face fell and the tears came, I put my arm around him. Seeing he needed some reassurance, I said “Son, I love you. I love you as much right now as I loved you before you made this poor decision, and because I love you I am going to walk through these consequences with you. I will stand by your side when you go over there to apologize. You will not have to walk through this alone.” So, we walked over together. It turns out her whole family did come to the door. He apologized to the little girl in front of her mom, dad, and brother; she forgave him… and just as I told him would probably happen, the parents thought even more of him for taking responsibility for what he did and for making it right.
Our son learned two valuable life lessons that day – The first was a lesson in how to honor others by treating them with love and respect, even when it’s difficult. Proverbs 3:3 says, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.”
The second lesson he learned was that we, as his parents, will be faithful to stand by him in good times and bad times, good decisions and poor ones; and that our love for him is not dependant his actions; it’s unconditional and written on the tablet of our hearts.
And, I believe God loves each of us, as his children, the same way. There is nothing we can do to separate ourselves from his love. There are no situations we have to walk through alone. He is our ever present help in times of need. What a wonderful, loving, mighty God we serve!
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